Hi Jo+3, we have 3 kids and pregnant with no 4. I thought I was finished at no3 but after her birth I jsut felt the need to have one more, I am 40 and it has been tough to get pregnant and stay pregnant. Since we started trying we have had 3 MC's early ones I put it down to the eggs being doodgey, this one looks like a sticky one. We have had a bit of negative feedback, people just don't get why we would want to go through this all again, I hate that!!! I don't understand why it affects other people ,anybody would think you are going to send the baby home with them. We just get on with it now and don't bother with the friends who are abit negative, they will come around eventually????? The biggest factor for us has been financial, we are currently doing an extension, but 2 kids are going to have to share anyway, but hey will survive, the car factor is another big one. But a 7 seater would be nice even with the 3 kids so they can take friends etc. Dh has just gone for an interview for a higher paid and cushier job, fingers crossed he gets it.

Good luck with the decision, I am still a little scared every now and again, but you will always make ends met and who really cares what anyone thinks, it's your life and you have to be the one that is happy.