Unfortunately you don't come across many people who jump for joy when you tell them you are pg with #4. Some will and that's great, but the first response from many people for us was either something really tacky (don't you know what's causing it?) or just 'gee, you'll have your hands full' MIL didn't take the news too well at first, but Mum was very happy for us. But with MIL, I told her the other week that DH was having a vasectomy and she got all strange about that - so go figure! The way I see it, they aren't the ones who are going to have to raise the baby, pay for it, feed it, clothe it, love it and they will get over it - they have to.