Pandora: Her mum would hate to know of her staying up so late - especially on a school night. The next morning she can be irritable and tired - not surprisingly. He says that he know he has to get her to bed earlier but he's all talk and no action. I keep suggesting to get her to bed earlier but as im not the biological mum, and I can see how much fun they do have together - I kind of feel like its not my place to be such a party pooper. If she was my daughter however - I would not stand for it.

Some underlying fears are he worries that because she doesnt have her mum n dad together hes trying to make it up to her by ensuring that whenever she visits her dad she has super fun. He worries she will feel sad. (he came from a similar situation growing up)

Honestly - I can see he enjoys this time together with her - so maybe there isnt anyhting I can do, it might just be an issue for us that will be ongoing - crap.

I just was wondering if I was being a sook - though my feelings are mine and I think theres absolutley nothing wrong with wanting to spend quality time with my partner -he is a lucky lucky man!!