We Parent Differently

[MamaK]

So, DP & I are two so totally different parents. He parents his kids pretty much opposite to me.
He lets his kids get away with stuff that I think is totally unacceptable - like hitting another child for example.

The oldest gets in trouble for every little thing that happens with the younger ones.

It seems as if DP doesn't discipline them often because it's easier - at least that's how it comes across to me. He has a 4yr old who is a right little brat - but I love him regardless - and he especially gets away with murder!

Last night at his place with all the kids there, I just did not cope and was in a grump all afternoon, evening and this morning.

I realise this is MY issue, but I just can't let it go. His kids are ALWAYS in the kitchen/pantry/fridge and there's food and c**p everywhere in the house.

It's almost as if there are no rules! His house is trashed from the kids - holes in the walls, doors broken, drawings over the walls etc etc.

I'm not perfect but I just can't cope with that! He's a good dad, and he loves his kids, but please tell me how I adjust to this? How do I change my way of thinking so that this doesn't bother me so much?

I'm not in a very tolerable mood atm obviously!

I'm sorry if this came across as righteous and self centered. I'm not saying I'm a better parent - just a different one.

Can this work??