everyone of my friends who have had a second and third child has had a baby shower for each.. and in the past 2 years ive been to over 30 baby showers for the second/third baby.. we all thinks its a great idea and are happy to help with the needs of the new baby. none of us think its selfish at all.. we LOVE it!! 1. its an excuse for us all to get together and go ga ga over babies andtalk about our husbands/boyfriends AND we think of it as if one person gets one item for the new baby that covers alot and is one less thing mummy doesnt have to worry about as we all no having a newborn and another child is HARD work!!! (just having one is hard enuf lol) if one of our friends DIDNT have a second baby shower we would wonder why she isnt and then organise one for her like we have done in the past...

anyway hope this helps!!!