everything but the books, particularly as it's not her first baby ...

but if I thought there might be a good one-on-one opportunity to discuss in detail my opinions and what worked for me and what books I found helpful, I'd take *my* set of books with me, and after chatting, would offer to pass them on to her.

books I'm really passionate about, I sometimes keep more than one copy, so I can give/loan/boomerang my one, and still have a copy at home for my reference - much less imposing than giving someone a new book with all the expectations (real or imagined) that can go with.

but I think the moogoo, close carrier, and some of the other suggested (an MCN etc) are all super ideas, and aren't pushy at all. you're a lovely friend. I think the books are a lovely idea, but I'd want to have the conversation with her at the time, to make sure she's feeling up for it, and is happy to take and read them, etc.

**quick thought: if she has a baby, a toddler, and a traumatic birth, I wonder how she's going for time ... do Pinky's books get done as audiobooks? or as a download? if so, I'd be even more likely to offer that ... just an idea!~