A friend of mine has just had her second baby. She's 38, and had another hard, traumatic birth, so I have been wary about being around her or 'in her face' too much (she knows I had a great birth, talked about it at length while she was pregnant), although she has expressed that she would like to see us a few times now. With her last child, she did Tizzy Hall, CIO etc, although from what she's said she is taking a gentler approach this time...bub in her room, no CIO. I was wanting to give her a little hamper of my favourite things - a bunch of moogoo products (she used J&J last time), a few Pinky books and our close carrier to lend (she borrowed a friends baby Bjorn last time). Do you think this would be seen as overbearing, or just a nice gesture? I'm certainly not trying to push my beliefs onto her, but I thought it might be a nice change from all the mainstream stuff people usually give. Could it be seen as overbearing, seeing as I know she used CIO etc last time? Or helpful? I wouldn't say anything about the stuff or what I think about it, just congrats, here's a hamper of stuff I found useful for DD. Thoughts?