Given she is old enough now to have her own friends to pick that she wants to invite I would have it when best suits you and her! Invite her friends she wants and what ever family can make it good otherwise too bad its her birthday with her friends and if family can't see that they can bugger off!!!!!!!!
Grrr at your SIL thinking attention would be off her DD FFS will be happening for ever now as 2 kids in family have birthdays near each other!!
I hope you can work it out without too much stress.
I agree with everyone who said it's time to make a stand. The poor kid must feel so unimportant. If people care enough, they'll make an effort. I'd love the response from my SiL if I ever whinged about them scheduling my niece or nephew's birthday without consulting me i dont think so!!
When does your DD want her birthday celebrated? Why not on her birthday. Have a party with friends on the day. If they're all travelling, then the Saturday or Sunday before sounds good. Book it in now and send out invitations. If people can come then great, if they can't, that's part of life.
I'm a December baby and though my birthday was early Dec, I still resented the "combined" birthday & Christmas presents. Everyone else got both. I felt less special for not getting both. Maybe that's greedy but dont expect kid's to be logical about birthdays.
Who the hell is your SIL anyway that she gets to dictate to you about your own child's birthday? The Queen? That p's me off.
Last edited by LionsandBears; October 4th, 2011 at 02:59 PM.
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What about a 'high tea' afternoon tea party at a nice cafe somewhere?Then she could have it on her birthday or at least during the week and maybe more family came come? You really need to remember that her birthday is about HER, not your family and if they can't come or can't make the effort to come, then that is their problem and not something you need to be responsible for
Thanks for all your wonderful ideas and suggestions ladies, you have made me feel a bit better about the whole thing and given me some food for thought.
Yes her birthday does fall in the school holidays (here in WA the kids will finish by Friday 16th Dec). And you know what, I was so upset about it all that I hadn't even thought about a mid week day time party! I really like that idea for all of her friends and if I give plenty of notice hopefully she will get a good attendance (not that it's all about attendance but you know what I mean).
I will talk more with DH soon - like most men he doesn't understand a) why I am getting so upset about it and b) why I am thinking about it so far in advance but I think I may just go ahead and do it on her birthday in the evening and if they can't come they can't come....que sera sera.
Love love the idea of the high tea Trillian, as it is she cannot decide what she wants - a park, a mermaid party and rollerskating are some of the ideas she has thrown at me already!
Once again thanks for all your words of wisdom and advice.
I have an 8 year old Christmas Eve baby. I agree - have a party that suits her school friends. At that age it' all about friends and lets be honest, for 8 year olds, the old rels aren't the main game. And other parents will LOVE you - they have time to pick up the Christmas Laybys and do a little last minute shopping without the 8 yr old.
My DD2's birthday is on 31st Dec and thats when we will be having her party. I know some people will have other plans, new years eve parties ect but it is her day not a week after or whenever suits everyone else so thats when we will celebrate. I know mil won't be there cause she is going camping but its not like she comes to DS or DD1s birthday parties either. I think you should do it on your DDs birthday, its her day and if people don't make it, it is there lost they are the ones missing out.
Ditto what everyone else has said. You do what you and DD want. If people can come, great - if not, great. You'll see them on Christmas Day anyway. And can she have a party with school friends on her actual birthday? Sorry but SIL is out of line - this is not her decision. This problem will never go away so time to do what suits you and your little family.
ETA Sorry I posted while you were posting! Sounds like some great ideas you have happening. And as someone who has done their Christmas shopping, no you're not thinking too far ahead! Don't forget you'll have the benefit of daylight saving so you could even do a lovely twilight party, and if there are Christmas lights nearby you could go look at them. Even a pool party at that time of year with a bbq would be great. I'm sure it will be awesome!
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i dont think so!!
you have made me feel a bit better about the whole thing and given me some food for thought.
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but I think I may just go ahead and do it on her birthday in the evening and if they can't come they can't come....que sera sera.
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