The mothers are all friends apparently. DD is friends with all 3 of them. I have no issue buying them all a present whatsoever.

I am copying what the invite says below:

Dear DD

You are invited to celebrate the 10th birthdays of Girls 1, 2 & 3

On ______

At 'the hall'

From 1pm-4pm
which includes afternoon tea
Please bring a plate of food to share

RSVP....Yada yada yada

So on the invite they say afternoon tea is PROVIDED yet you must bring a plate. That's what is annoying me i think.