i'm glad i'm wrong - well - to a degree anyway

i know there are people (my brother for example) that will ask for help, crack the poos if he doesn't get it, but won't help anyone else. we have done heaps to help them out, and when we asked for help for one of the days we were moving (a couple of weeks in advance) he said he had a friends childs birthday one of the days that weekend, so wouldn't be able to help at all for the weekend (which basically means the kids party would become and adults party and he'd be hung over). i got the impression that my friends brother is much the same.

and it really does have me thinking about it. DH and I rarely get offers of help. we got help for about half a day when we moved - and it took us two days working our backsides off to move. no one else stepped up. but we're people that DO offer to help all the time. so it really made me wonder if we're just an oddity in helping people

or maybe we just have (primarily) selfish friends around here!!

the friend we helped last week - she has son's in their 20's who wouldn't help. they think we did a fantastic job cleaning up the yard for their mum (one still lives at home!) - but neither of them would help her maintain the yard so that she could sell her house


i was trying to explain to one of the friends today - we don't do it so that we can call in favours or anything like that - we do it because we actually LIKE helping people. i'm someone that has to fight damn hard to keep depression at bay without medication - and helping someone, and seeing that it really has helped - it gives me a bit of a lift and helps that battle a little.

as i said, i'm glad my ponderings are wrong

roll on next week when we move some more stuff for someone - and then help with catering for her party (she is paying for everything - we're just baking!)