I don't have racist friends. I won't put up with that in my life. And if someone I know says something then I can usually just give the Look and they'll backtrack... although some people have had me asking pointed questions about why they feel the need to say XYZ.

Look of contempt and death to strangers who say something idiotic and abusive - has worked on occasion.

As for family... I grew up in a "not racist" family. When I moved away from them, I now categorise them as "not racist but" - as in, my father will treat all men as equal, no matter of skin colour, but put on strong, false accents if you mention the name of the country that is predominantly not-white. And there are only white people around, of course. Hilarious. I'm the only one who will tell him that it's not cool. And don't get my mother started on immigration! I have more respect for working immigrants and the majority of asylum seekers (there are one or two headliners that I don't care for, but asylum seekers who commit criminal acts here are by far the minority) than I do people who think the state owes them money because they were born here and don't lift a finger to try to work. But that's not how she will ever see the world. And I pull her up on it every time.