****JUST MY OPINION****

if they were organising the night i think it should be up to them to contact you beforehand like they said they would.

i know when im offered something for nothing i feel terrible and honestly, i couldnt bring myself to contact them about it, in fear of them thinking im a leech!

i wouldnt have answered my phone either.

maybe when they have kids they might realise how hard it can be

maybe you should just ring her and try to sort it out - if you still wanna be friends

xx