I often buy gifts for people despite a "no gifts" on an invite etc.

I like doing it, I want to do it. The no gifts is realistically because you ARE paying for your own meals she doesn't want anyone to feel obliged. Fair enough. If you can't/won't/don't want to get anything, then don't.

If you do, do. But I would give it privately, not make a big deal over it and make it personal.

Hope she has an awesome birthday!
:yeahthat: I'd also be even more inclined to take a gift as it's a milestone birthday but it was also depend on my relationship with the birthday person - a really close friend or just a friend IYKWIM