Oh I understand, and I'm not offended. But look at how hard it is to even talk about on a forum. Even the title was changed from overweight to rude, LOL. Don't get me wrong, I'm not anti-overweight people, I'm not a size 10 myself, and if it were a smelly person who made me uncomfortable the title would have been "smelly people on trains". But if it is this hard to talk about on a forum, it demonstrates something about how awkward it is to talk about in real life. You are right, there are no answers, but I was hoping someone would have a different perspective for next time this happens. Seems the answer just is... there is none.