I'm pleased for you that you took no offence. It is still an incredibly offensive statement.

I did not have a child to farm him out to others. But I also don't want my family to starve. Hmmm, food and love from someone who isn't me or being smug, judgemental and near death. Such a hard choice, I wish I'd picked differently and gone for smug and rude now. Oh wait, I don't. Cos I have a happy, well adjusted and FED family.
I agree that it probably is an offensive statement, but I guess that by personally being comfortable with our decision (and necessity) to use childcare I didn't take it as being offensive as I didn't feel her tone was judging me for using care. I also personally feel that everyone has a right to their own opinions. She might think its best to spend every day with her child whereas I feel that time away from me in a different environment is best.