Cass.

Mine already use cutlery most times. They are not very good at it but they give it a go. DS flat out refuses the little versions, but will happily use the "big" fork. He even had a go at cutting his own sausages last night, with a little help. They both refuse plastic "kids" spoons too. They have to have the metal ones we use. DS even has to have one with a particular handle lol. They usually give up and use their fingers after a while but I'm glad they try. At the moment they are just copying mum & dad as they are 3.75 & 1.5.

Have you tried encouraging them with rewards like stickers? If they eat most of the meal with cutlery, then they get a sticker type thing?