They do use spoons, and mostly forks, it's the knife thing that bugs me.
I've stopped cutting up their food to get them to try, but it's painful to watch.
We had roast chicken last night and it was a disaster.
Dd is left handed and it looks like Ds is leaning towards it too. Plus he's very tactile. Maybe that's it *shrug*. I will keep trying and trust it will come, I guess.