I agree with LZ - I do not like ladies in white, or anyone in black at weddings.

I think inappropriate behaviour and attire is indicative of a poorly selected guest list. If they don't know what's appropraite to do/say at said couple's special day, then they clearly don't know the couple well enough to deserve to share in the celebrations.

I am fairly well known for turning up to weddings in <$10. The reason I am known for doing it, is that someone compliments my dress, and I proudly announce that it's second hand. Classy on a budget is easier than most people think.

Our wedding was very low-key. A quote from the night was "This is the best wedding ever - I can wear my sunnies on my head like the groom is, and go barefoot like the bride is!" We specified collars and dresses on our invite though, and left it to imagination. DH did rip a tie off one of our guests before the ceremony!

But, yeah, I also agree that at the end of the day, the couple still end up married, so the purpose of the event is achieved, and let's all stop whingeing! (in theory this works. in practice, I love a good b*tch session about who wore what)