Who is most likely to ***** about how long you took to do it? I took this approach. In my case, it was SIL, who got thankyou cards out at about 10 weeks. So I figured I had at least that long, and then got mine done by 8 weeks, just to stick it up her.

Also, anyone who actually gives a toss doesn't bloody deserve one.

Could you do them at a cafe, so that little bro has heaps of noise and stuff to look at?

And yes, if people reeeeeally need to come and overstimulate (ohm whoops, I mean cuddle) him, they will ask. If you don't ask, you don't get. And you don't get the right to whinge about it.