hey, Tinks if it makes ya feel better ... i reckon i have worn black to most Weddings i've been too ... If all else fails just wear your black and pop into Diva for some jewellery (that's if you like wearing jewellery), they have a nice ** aqua colour ** range called ALOHA (i bought the Stain Glass Earrings, gorgeous on & very light to wear), even have a look on their Diva website before shopping (they have a huge sale on at present), it even gives you an idea of what jewellery looks great together ... (i love black & aqua together, makes for something different)