It was a bit different for us as we secretly married and surprised everyone with the news at our engagement parties (my family all live interstate so had one for them and one st home with friends and DH's family) so people were less generous (for lack of a better phrase) with their gifts. For the most part we received money or gift cards ranging from $50-$150. A few people only gave cards, a few were annoyed about how we went about getting married so didn't even give a card, but people just being there was what was important to us. A number of people asked in the lead up what we would like and the response was the same "for you to be there, eat, drink and be merry". Even if we had done the "traditional" wedding, it would have been the same. Anything we received was very much appreciated but certainly not required. As far as what we give, anything from $100-$300 depending on who it is.