Well it's interesting that people have such differing views.
We were married 23 years ago in April and we had nothing as we'd not been living together. Anything we got was useful but I still question the very ugly turkey platter from a much loved older friend. It does however get trotted out most Christmas Dinners and is either admired or laughed at. We'd have been considered fairly rude asking for money from everyone from my cultural background but a couple of older relatives gave us LARGE cheques.
My aunt gave us a saucepan......still used most days of the 23 years!
We've sort of "grown out" of our wedding going days for friends. This couple have been living together for ages so we are rather looking forward to celebrating with them.
I guess it will be nieces and nephews next!
I did not want to give anonymously if it was not the done thing and I didn't want to display how much we were giving if this was not the done thing. I am glad I asked the question.
Card and affordable amount of $$$ it is!
see I think this is where it's completely different now. *Most* couples live together now before getting married so they have all the *stuff* they kind of need for married life together, hence why Wishing Wells are quite the norm now.