I'm sorry but i will NOT have somebody in MY house that tells me, yes TOLD me that he doesn't respect me. That he loves my DP and my children but can't respect me and if DP is happy with me then he will have to SOMEHOW find a way to respect that The same person who has made me cry, offended me and just been down right rude to me no matter how hard i try to be nice, so many times that i have lost count. The same person who gets annoyed at DP if he cannot hang out because he has family priorities, who told him that us having another child was stupid and we aren't taking into account our childrens futures. If DP can look past these comments and want to remain friends he can, but he can do it outside of my house.
Well that's entirely different and quite frankly I'd be p!ssed that your husband doesn't see this for why it is and show respect for you and show this 'friend' the door, you shouldn't have to ban this guy, your husband should be the person that doesn't want anything to do with this guy!