Thanks for your replies. The reason ive taken so long with deciding whether to do ivf is for that exact reason that i know that it could be a long rd with or without success. I am still not entirely happy with that outlook but we have to keep positive and at least try!

Actually my concerns run both ways, i dont want study stress to impact how i cope/do with ivf and on the other hand my course costs $2300 a subject and if i fail i lose that. (have until end of next week to stay or leave without fee penalty). The thing is when i applied for the course last year i didn't think we were going to go ahead with it. But the issue kept coming up and we decided together to give it a go.

So, what you have said about everyone dealing with ivf differently and not trying to be wonderwoman puts things in perspective. I can always defer for a semester or two till i know how i cope with ivf.

I really appreciate everyone's advice, this site has been my only real confidante over the last 10 months. I haven't spoken to anyone, not even sister or mum about ivf in depth and all my feelings.