This is such a hard and draining process. You and I seem to have been trying for about the same amount of time - me 3years assisted with 8 clomid and 8 fresh IVF cycles- so I understand what you mean about feeling so tired of it.
The positive for you is that you have been smart enough to start earlier! I only have 6 months left until 40 - also my cut off- and no frosties Try and take comfort in the fact you still have time and at least 7 good opportunities. You still have lots of chances and hopefully the next one will stick... although ... I hate it when people tell me to 'think positive' because 'hope' can be exhausting so if that advice was completely unhelpful then I get it, but try not to put too much pressure on yourself. We all wish we could smash that damn ticking clock!!! This process would be hard enough without it.
Regarding the job- I took a promotion 4 yrs ago just before starting the process (and delayed starting assisted fertility for 6 months which I regret) and have now have decided to resign the position- I loved it and my CV looks great but after coping well for the first few cycles I am now finding this process is taking so much of me that I just can't think straight anymore. Base your decision on how you are coping personally- remember to look after yourself!
It sucks and it's not fair and it just plain sucks (yes, it sucks so much that's it's worth repeating).
I don't see you walking away from this journey empty-handed; I still see you getting the happy ending you have worked so hard for, however improbable it feels right now.
I think this job will be a welcome change for you, something to get you out of that rut and renew your energy!
And if Murphy's Law has any say in the matter, you'll be pg within a few months of starting so that you don't quite make it to 12 months to be eligible for maternity leave...
Thankyou so much ladies. I didn't get the job, but did get an interview and really enjoyed the process of going for it.
I am feeling better, still freaking out in a way, but I guess I just have to suck it up and keep trying.
DH was saying the other day that it seems the people who keep going seem to be the ones that eventually get there... Not everyone can keep going, so its not always possible... But I guess for now we are still able to. So hopefully they increases my chances.
And yes juniper... It sucks... and that is definitely worth repeating. It sucks. Thankyou for giving me extra hope that you see me with a baby. I hope so. I really do.
Sorry to hear you didn't get the job. The application process does seem to have given you a new vibrance though? Will you be applying elsewhere or was that a unique position?
That position is pretty rare. Ill continue to look, but probably won't really actively apply for things at the moment, I will reconsider later in the year and if I am still unhappy with my boss I will probably look for a change next year.
FWIW, it took us seven years. I don't know if that is of any comfort to you but it CAN happen after years of trying, hoping one of those lil frosties is destined to be your take home bubba. Hang in there hun xxx
. Take comfort in knowing that your have 7 snowbubs waiting for you hun, I hope that at least one is a take home bub xoxox
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Try and take comfort in the fact you still have time and at least 7 good opportunities. You still have lots of chances and hopefully the next one will stick
... although ... I hate it when people tell me to 'think positive' because 'hope' can be exhausting so if that advice was completely unhelpful then I get it, but try not to put too much pressure on yourself. We all wish we could smash that damn ticking clock!!! This process would be hard enough without it.
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