This is a super quick one because I have to run (don't even really have time to write this but oh well, haha...) -
Alison - So sorry about your tumultuous couple of days. I swear, you couldn't even make that stuff up... Crazy! I just wanted to let you know that I didn't have the best numbers and the numbers themselves don't necessarily mean it's all over, or it's not going to happen, it can't happen etc. Long story short, I had 4 embryos make it post-biopsy (after 2 cycles, at 30 years old, just very poor response to meds - my body does not seem to like the intervention). It was our only shot and we went for it and hoped and prayed for the best - we had 6 little embryos, we knew from biopsy that 2 weren't looking the best and 4 seemed ok - so basically 4 embryos. The testing we had done was for a known genetic disease (that DD has), 25% chance of being affected, 50% chance of being a carrier. We had **3** come back completely unaffected. I am pregnant now with one of those little ones. The numbers just don't mean everything. I know we were incredibly lucky, and I know we are in different situations, but my point is, who is to say you won't get lucky...!? Do you know what I mean? Obviously, there are difficult decisions to make for you, and I know the waiting is beyond awful - I was a wreck, especially the morning of a potential transfer not knowing if there was even going to be a transfer (results came through that morning). I cried so hard on the phone to the embryologist I swear she probably had no idea what was going on with me. It is just a very difficult time all around, no denying it - but all hope is not lost, it really isn't. I don't know if any of that helps or not, but wanted to try... I'm sending you big hugs!
As for the Crinone, I did not know what symptoms I was getting from what - I felt very achy and extremely bloated post-EPU and started Crinone that night, so not sure how much to attribute to the EPU. So for me, basically for at least 5-6 days post-EPU I was feeling pretty awful (to the point where I worried something was going wrong and transfer would be cancelled). Laying down with heat packs was what helped me the most. Also drinking lots of water (helps with fluid retention in abdominal area). I was so bummed when the nurse told me no heat packs after transfer, I wondered how I was going to get through without them. I had probably about 2-3 days of feeling ok post-transfer (still on Crinone) and then started getting very achy/crampy again but with extra pain in my lower back/tailbone area. In retrospect, that would have been right around implantation. I think it's just a time where you will, unfortunately, be feeling very emotional and uncomfortable... but it will pass. I didn't find the Crinone a worry personally, I just found the whole process very draining. Be kind to yourself.
JoeSpratt - Wishing you a happy and peaceful few days and wonderful results on Tuesday!
Oh Girls thank you so much for putting my mind at ease, I'm so grateful I have you all to lean on with your own experiences and all. Thanks for giving me hope!!!
Well the clinic rang this morning, my 2 from yesterday have made it to today, one is at 3 and one is at 4 cell so they are very happy with that. My first 3 frozen embies are being thawed today in preparation to be sent off for testing tomorrow, I'm so nervous about losing those ones in the process. She said you can lose up to 30% in the thaw so I am crossing everything that they all survive and all continue to divide. She was happy with having 5 to send to testing, I am quite amazed at the difference between speaking with the embryologist as opposed to the nurses/specialists etc as they've always said 6 - but she said 5 is good, even 4 is ok so I'm feeling a bit more optimistic. Look at the end of the day, like I said to her, we could wait another 2/3 months, spend another $10,000 on another cycle, get 0 or 10 eggs and none be ok still so we have decided to just go with the gamble and hope for the best. This is going to be a nervous wait, gah........obviously the more the merrier but my ultimate would be to end up with 2 good embryos by next Tuesday so I can freeze one for backup - but I won't count my chickens before they've hatched. I'm going to be devo if they all peter out.
Oh Girls thank you so much for putting my mind at ease, I'm so grateful I have you all to lean on with your own experiences and all. Thanks for giving me hope!!!
Well the clinic rang this morning, my 2 from yesterday have made it to today, one is at 3 and one is at 4 cell so they are very happy with that. My first 3 frozen embies are being thawed today in preparation to be sent off for testing tomorrow, I'm so nervous about losing those ones in the process. She said you can lose up to 30% in the thaw so I am crossing everything that they all survive and all continue to divide. She was happy with having 5 to send to testing, I am quite amazed at the difference between speaking with the embryologist as opposed to the nurses/specialists etc as they've always said 6 - but she said 5 is good, even 4 is ok so I'm feeling a bit more optimistic. Look at the end of the day, like I said to her, we could wait another 2/3 months, spend another $10,000 on another cycle, get 0 or 10 eggs and none be ok still so we have decided to just go with the gamble and hope for the best. This is going to be a nervous wait, gah........obviously the more the merrier but my ultimate would be to end up with 2 good embryos by next Tuesday so I can freeze one for backup - but I won't count my chickens before they've hatched. I'm going to be devo if they all peter out.
You will never know if you don't give it a try! Strange how you get such Different perspective by talking to different people at the clinic. At least you now seem more at ease with your decision. Best of luck with the thaw & testing xxx
If it's one thing I have learnt JoeSpratt it's that you just can't believe/listen to every single thing they say because they all tell you different things, make you feel different ways, it just depends who you speak to I guess. I think it's what makes the whole IVF process so bloomin stressful!!!!!! Us girls deserve a medal, how anyone gets pregnant naturally is beyond me, I am convinced my daughter was pot luck! xx
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