Elarwood- It sure does sound like a nightmare cycle your poor girl :-( I had always thought IVF eliminated chance of ectopic until I got the info from my clinic post transfer. I hope they take care of it all tomorrow, it sure has dragged on for you. Keep strong x
Minnie- scan in another week! 6 weeks to go for you, how very exciting!!! Is this your first?
T-hopes, does your clinic grade embryos? Being affiliated with QFG i assume so. i'm interested to know what your embryo was. Mine was 6AB which is pretty good AA being the best. Our frozen embryos are of less quality, I think 6BB & 6BC and a few morulas so I'm terrified they won't work. However, your success has given me hope again that CGH can work! DH has been struggling too, he has a pretty stressful job (bank manager) & IVF stress hasn't been helping.
DH and I have decided to go with whatever FS recommends tomorrow. If he gives us a choice, we might wait one more week to try & escape the laparoscopy & hope the levels go down & stay down.
Minnie can they give you anything to help iron levels? Hope you're able to get some rest. Must be so excited.
Off to bed so I can get up at 4.30 to get to the clinic on time. What doctor starts his appts so early! I am terrified but I also want answers & for it to be over soon.
Elarwood hope everything goes well for you tomorrow xx
No chance of going with another clinic so unfortunately unless a spot opens up soon I will just have to wait until Nov. not happy Jan The joys of IVF I suppose!
Well, unfortunately I am having the laparoscopy this morning. He still suspects ectopic & given I have quite a lot of internal fluid & blood he's worried about a leak. On the plus side he'll do a d&c, endo biospy for killer cells & check for endo etc i can also try again in 6 weeks (wait 2 weeks, go on the pill for 3 & then get a bleed & start). At least there is an end in sight. Not looking forward to the pain from the lap but physical pain heals faster than the emotional.
It is weird that I am still mourning the loss, of what could have been? I keep wondering if things would be different if the little thing stuck to the right place. FS quotes 1 in 300 chance of ectopic in IVF I've read it's 2-3% but extremely unlucky if that's the case.
Joe, I completely understand your frustration! That really does sick having to wait so long. The waiting is what makes it harder :-(
Elarwood- sorry you have to go through this but like you said, at least it will all be over and you can start your recovery. I had a lap in May for endo, it took a good two weeks to recover but I guess it all depends what you have done. I had moderate endo and an endo cyst on my ovary plus they did d&c. Hoping they don't find any endo with you & you have a speedy recovery. All the best, let us know how you go x
Well, it was ectopic. In my left tube. He wasn't able to save my tube, but our only choice is IVF so I'm not upset about that, mostly mourning the loss of my baby. Would have been 9 weeks on Monday. The horrible thing is they gave me photos of the baby in the tube. Who wants to see that :-( he also found some 'atypical' endo but couldn't remove it. Something about it being vascular. We are very relieved we did the surgery today & didn't wait, as who knows what could have happened. No pain yet, had quite a lot of morphine & have endone at home.
FS still quotes 1 in 300 chance of ectopic, we must be extremely unlucky. But I feel lucky that it was caught in time & I will be okay.
Elarwood: sorry to hear it was ectopic and you lost your tube from the little I know once the tube has had an ectopic it's best to have it removed otherwise you are at greater risk of it happening again. Seems odd to give you those pics without asking if you wanted them :-( Keep up the pain relief and I hope you don't have too much pain
Munchkin: not long til the scan this is my 3rd child, I had the first 2 with fertility drugs then had 5 miscarriages which is what bought us to Ivf and pgd
Elarwood...so sorry for your loss xx what an ordeal you have been through
Hoping that your recovery goes well. Thoughts are with you
I think by vascular endo your FS was meaning that the endo was associated with a major vein/artery that could have led to a lot of bleeding if not dealt with correctly. May not have been prepared to deal with it at the time. Makes it all the more real having the picture...not particularly considerate of the nurse given the circumstance.
Munchkin: the first was a big shock, it was a natural pregnancy after needing fertility treatment for the first 2, we figured it was meant to be ! We went to the scan at 8 weeks but was measuring behind with a slow heartbeat, a week later I started bleeding, then the pattern kept repeating itself, the next 2 didn't even make it to scans but I had blood levels going up before miscarrying.
The next was the same as the first, measuring behind, slow heartbeat and stopped by the next scan, so then we went to Ivf because I figured if they could pick the embryo that went back that would be better, I got pregnant first cycle but again by 6/7 weeks it was measuring behind, I chose to naturally miscarry but that was very difficult as it took 4 weeks
After all those losses the drs decided they were most likely from chromosomal issues (all our blood tests were normal) so that's how we ended up with pgd, our first cycle I got 4 tested and all were abnormal, then we did 2 cycles to try to get more to test, second time we had 10 tested and all but this one on board were abnormal so we are very very lucky it stuck because that was it for us
Oh and to answer your question I don't think I ever really dealt with it, just moved from one loss to the next and tried not to think about it, when I got such bad pgd results it did make me feel better about the losses (only because we got a good one that stuck, it could have easily gone the other way) because we probably weren't losing healthy babies and while it still hurt it made it better somehow
Elarwood so sorry to hear, big hugs, it sounds like you are in good spirits considering xx
Minnie you story is so like mine, I've had 5 miscarriages too only my ivf/pgd resukts weren't as lucky as yours ho hum.
Afm - I am o'ing ATM, hoping this is my last cycle off before we can try again. Although I'm nervous and dreading the ttc stress again, especially as this is our very last shot.
Alison: yep as I said it could have easily gone the other way, there is such a huge difference between having something to transfer and having a chance and there being nothing and that's it it's all over. Fingers crossed for you that this break has been worth it for you and you get a sticky (healthy) bfp soon
Munchkin: thanks, it would have broken my heart to have it all end on losses but that does happen for some unfortunately, I'm forever grateful we got another chance because I'm 40 now and we wouldn't have gone on with those pgd results
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The joys of IVF I suppose!
and congratulations to T-Hopes- remember me??
sorry to hear it was ectopic and you lost your tube
this is my 3rd child, I had the first 2 with fertility drugs then had 5 miscarriages which is what bought us to Ivf and pgd
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