Sue, absolutely no offence taken and I think I've come to the same conclusions as you. No bad feeling between any of us, including BIL, so definitely no ill intent but I think it may be a case of everyone trying not to cause me angst. They all know about this attempt but I just feel left out. You know how some people try so hard not to upset you that it becomes really obvious they are avoiding the subject. It's not like our family is religious so maybe they just didn't think it was a big deal... Oh well, time to concentrate on tommorow's outcome I think...