Hey Jules

Sometimes things are easier to handle (not just ivf) if you try to take it one step at a time.

I used to have a fear of flying, so much so that i would not get on a plane. I kept seeing the big picture. But then I decided to break it down and deal with it one step at a time.

Firstly - I bought the book 'Fearless Flyers Handbook' but before I could buy it I found out about it then went to the book shop to check it out then I went again and purchased it then I left it in the bag in a draw for another six weeks till I was ready to look at it. Each was a step.

Although I can suggest a book ie. 'Feel the Fear and do it anyway' by Susan Jeffers. I think its great for any fear because its about the process of fear not the subject.

Something else to remember is: you are not alone, its only natural to have negative thoughts and doubts.

Good luck