Hi Bec and Odette,

I'm waiting to start Lucrin for my second stim cycle. Our first one was in Nov/Dec and I got a bfp, but lost it on new year's day. We didn't get any frozen embies, so I'm waiting for the nurses to call me today to tell me when to start the down reg.

I have a son who is almost 5, and we've been trying for another baby for the last four years.

I find that secondary infertility has a whole lot of different issues that come with it. My little man is always asking when he's going to have a brother or sister, particularly when his friends' mums at kinder have babies.

I also have this stress about the age gap being so big, and I have worked out that if I don't get pregnant in the next couple of months, then they won't ever be going to primary school at the same time.

And because infertility is so consuming, I feel like our life has been on hold for the past 4 years, and after we had the miscarriage, I felt like I should just be thankful that I have my son, and get on with life.

We have made the mistake so many times of not doing something, because "by then I should be pregnant", but it's so hard not to.

Sometimes I feel like I don't have a right to post in the other forums when others are trying for their first, so it's good to have other mums to chat to.

Good luck to both of you for your next cycles.

Lisa