Anyone here 42 and over -and successful ??

[AustraJoey]

I need some inspiration and hope, I'm 42 and been ttc since October 2003 with 4 m/c in that time. I do have kids, but just want one more. I have had 6 m/c at around 9 weeks in total and have endometriosis.

If you are/have been successful- could you share your positive story?
Thanks, Jo

[bettyboop]

Hi there wishing you good luck with TTC, i am 40 and have just remarried and we are TTC , i have 4 children but would love to have one with my new husband. Fingers crossed for us both.

[Missy]

Hi there

Did you see on tv last night. That 60 year old lady that had Twin boys. If she can at the age of 60 by IVF then 42 yr old has got some hope. I wish you both the best. Good luck!!!

[Reags]

Hi JO,
I'm 36, but diagnosed with pre-men last year and have the egg quality of someone 42/43 yrs old. I too have had about 5 m/c (already have a 9 yrd old)and 3 icsi attempts. My 4th icsi attempt I used a drug called 'Luveris" (egg booster), I'm sure it helped my poor egg quality. I got 6 eggs, 4 fert, 2 put back and and +BFP+ on the 12th May !!!!! just waiting for the scan in 2 weeks. Good luck ................ it can happen XX

[Lynn]

Just wanted to say good luck Jo. It looks like it can happen, so I hope so much that it happens for you very very soon. Take care

[Jodie259]

I'm 39 and have conceived again... without trying too hard either. (sorry - not trying to rub it in). I conceived at 37 (birthed at 38yo) - and discovered that I had a huge cyst on my ovary - rendering that one useless at the time. The cyst was removed when my baby was born. Maybe I was a little more fertile because I had two good ovaries?

I understand that people try so hard to conceive, and have real troubles getting there. So sometimes I feel really guilty. But I think my success was just relaxing and enjoying the 'journey'... not trying too hard. I've never counted/temped/tested... and rarely had sex (quality over quantity for us). But I know that as you get older.. you don't have time to spare.

Have you had tests done (both you & partner) to ensure everything is in order...?

[Lucy]

Jo, a GF of mine had severe endo, as well as her fallopian tubes were also badly scarred by a previous case of undiagnosed chlamydia (sp?). She was 42 on her first IVF attempt and it was successful, and after her first baby was born, she did another round of IVF at 44 and was successful. (She now as 2 beautiful precious babies).

[Lissie]

Hi Jo,
I too am 42 and about to do my 7th round of icsi - its funny i too was going to ask if anyone else was out there at my age but chickened out as i seem to get so much negative imput from people telling me why bother you are too old - but im stubborn and all i want is a little family - i'm glad you posted as there is a little inspiration out there for both of us - i wish you all the luck in the world and i hope you get a BFP real soon.

[AustraJoey]

Thanks everyone for your response. I'm not giving up either but need inspiration to get me through sometimes. I don't feel too old and my kids would love a sibling. I've just ordered a book from the US written by a woman who had 6 m/c and then had a lovely girl at age 44.
Jo

[Lenny]

i too was going to ask if anyone else was out there at my age but chickened out as i seem to get so much negative imput from people telling me why bother you are too old - but im stubborn and all i want is a little family

Lissie - i really hope that no-one here has ever said that to you!! If they have, then they are ignorant and stupid. Good luck to you and to AustraJoey, and I hope you got a little bit inspired and I wish you all the best for a BFP really soon!!

[Lissie]

Kotare,
Thanks for that. No one on belly belly has given any negative feedback its just the rest of the world that i feel - feel this way - i do get heaps of negatives from people so now i know the negative people i just stay clear of them and focus on positive vibes like yours so thanks for the good luck wishes god knows all of us need it. And by the way good luck to you to - sometimes its such a struggle but i just know it will be worth it in the end.

[AustraJoey]

This email a friend sent today sums it up for me-
Once upon a time there was a bunch of tiny frogs.... who arranged a running competition.

The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower.

A big crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the contestants....

The race began....

Honestly:

No one in the crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower.

You heard statements such as:

"Oh, WAY too difficult!!"

"They will NEVER make it to the top."

or:

"Not a chance that they will succeed. The tower is too high!"




The tiny frogs began collapsing. One by one....

Except for those, who in a fresh tempo, were climbing higher and higher....

The crowd continued to yell, "It is too difficult!!! No one will make it!"

More tiny frogs got tired and gave up....

But ONE continued higher and higher and higher....

This one wouldn't give up!






At the end everyone else had given up climbing the tower. Except for the one tiny frog who, after a big effort, was the only one who reached the top!

THEN all of the other tiny frogs naturally wanted to know how this one frog managed to do it?




A contestant asked the tiny frog how he had found the strength to succeed and reach the goal?

It turned out....

That the winner was DEAF!!!!






The wisdom of this story is:

Never listen to other people's tendencies to be

negative or pessimistic.... because they take your most wonderful dreams and wishes away from you -- the ones you have in your heart!

Always think of the power words have.

Because everything you hear and read will affect your actions!

Therefore:

ALWAYS be....

POSITIVE!

And above all:

Be DEAF when people tell YOU that you cannot fulfill your dreams!

Always think:

God and I can do this!

Pass this message on to 5 "tiny frogs" you care about.

Give them some motivation!!!


Most people walk in and out of your life......but FRIENDS leave footprints in your heart




To The World You Might Be One Person; But To One Person You Might Be the World.

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[anney]

Hi there, I have a friend who had 2 m/cs at 43 and then a gorgeous little girl at 44 so it can happen. We were lcuky enough to have our first child at 40 and have been trying ever since but despite 3 m/c s have not been successful. Like the frog we are not giving up and are going to use donor eggs. I am now 45 and certainly understand Lissie, what you say about negative input from people. But they are not in your shoes so you have to live your life, so go for it. Us over 40's need to stick together.

[AustraJoey]

Yes, I am with you- not going to quit )
Jo

[Lissie]

Me too - as my moto says Never say Never, - Atrajoey i loved your email - its funny actually i was talking to my boss about this yesterday and she asked how i felt and it was so much like your email i couldn't believe it - i explained to her its like climbing a huge mountain and you make it to the top and then you slip all the way down again so you get the strength to climb again and again and again and you won't rest until you can put that flag of victory on the top of that mountain. So glad you posted this questtion as i feel it has given us over 40's a little inspiration to keep going. Anyway i thought that 40 was now the new 30! May i ask how many eggs you Astrajoey and Anney how eggs you have produced whilst on IVF - i have ranged from 2 - 7 eggs each pick up and luckily all have always fertilised and i have only had 4 eggs in total not good for transfer. Just wondering if its not too personal a question.

[anney]

Hi Lissie,
not too personal, happy to answer your question. Unfortunately we didn't start IVF until I was 44, as I was stubborn and thought we could still do it ourselves. I found out then I have polycystic ovaries ie. not the full syndrome as I have absolutely no symptoms but polycystic ovaries can mean your ovaries don't always react predictably to the stim drugs. anyway first cycle I stimmed relatively quickly and we got 14 eggs, 8 fertilised, only 2 were good enough to transfer and we got pg first go. Saw a heartbeat at 7 weeks but unfortunately miscarried a few weeks later. That is the worst part, even if you get pg. after 40, the rate of miscarriage is about 40%. So we then went back for another cycle but only got 2 not so great eggs and they transferred one embie but I knew it would not work as it was not great quality. By then I was 45 so cannot do IVF with my own eggs any more. sometimes I wish we had got to IVF earlier as we may have got pg. but then again I think the constant disappointment would have been bad.
The good thing about IVF is they can judge which embies are best so at least you know you have a chance.
It is nice that this thread was started as I didn't realise there were so many over 40s around BB.

[Inanna]

I am not over forty but I am nudging it! (in August!)...` I have four live children and have had 3 early miscarriages and 3 mid trimester losses on the journey to holding a much wanted 5th baby.
I required clomid to conceive this baby and I am not going to sugar coat how bloody difficult this journey is... I long for the days of ignorant bliss! However what doesn't kill me makes me stronger and I know I am a better person for this journey that my life has shown me...

Don't listen to the naysayers - listen to that heart of yours... It will never fail you. Believe that you will hold that baby. Put pictures up of healthy babies, write a birth announcement. Surround yourself with positive thought and loving people...

I read an article last night (for those of you who know sent by my mum!) on women of more mature years having babies. There was a lovely story of a woman of 44 who 3 months ago birthed her first child. She had been on ivf to no avail... One day she looked in the mirror and saw "pregnant breasts"... She was indeed 6 weeks pregnant... Now she holds a healthy pooing screaming bubba... It can happen and it happens every day.... Wishing you all the luck in the world on YOUR journey...

[AustraJoey]

Hi Lissie,
I've never been on IVF, just using Vitex to regulate hormones( it's a herb) and Chinese herbs and acupuncture. I've just ordered a book from the States about getting pg and having a baby over 40, the author had 6 m/c before having her baby at 44. My gynae saw two 46 year old women last year and last I heard they were both almost full term- so it can be done. He and another MMC specialist said to keep ttc as long as I can emotionally handle it. These 2 Drs are very positive and supportive.
Thanks everyone, I was a bit chicken to post this thread but thought- why not- and I'm glad I did.
Jo