Hi girls, my DH never thought he was ever going to have children, he was in a long term relationship with someone who did'nt want any, as it turned out she left and went on to have children with someone else. Can you imagine how you would feel after that? All those years would feel like a waste. But we have 2 beautiful kids and he is the best Daddy in the world, age is just a number, he does'nt look his age and certainly does'nt act it. I think he is making the most of it. I just hope they are not embarrased of us as we get older. People are suprised when they find out how old we are, so I hope the kids are keeping us younger. It's either that, or they don't expect people our age to be having them.
Austrajoey, how many kids do you have and what made you want to go back?
Lissie you seem such a great person, I hope you get your miracle, if you ask me you deserve it. I understand about being afraid of living without children because I know how precious they are,I can't imagine my life without them. I just wish DH and I had got our act together earlier who knows how many we may have had. Certainly we are fighting an uphill battle now, but we've got the fighting spirit.
Yesterday on Oprah they had a senators wife on. They lost an older child in an accident, they said they did'nt want to replace the child but it made them feel the need for more children. She went on to have 2 more children one at age 48 and the next at 50. So it certainly is possible.
Has anyone thought about adoption? We looked into overseas programs briefly, but decided to keep on this course for a while.
Its's funny really I think about you BB girls from time to time through the day, and hope I can pass on something to help make the journey easier.
Sorry Austrajoey just seen you signature, now I know how many kiddies you have. Did you think you had finished after no 3 or you always knew you wanted more?
I always wanted 6 but DH negotiated me down to 4,I married at almost 30 but I had 2 m/c before I had any kids which set me back a few years, then had 3 and assumed I'd have the last one easily. I got pg right away at almost 39 y o but m/c at 9 weeks. Then I spent almost 6 months ttc and nothing, started having tests done , found and removed a polyp, started ttc again, with AP, got pg at 41, m/c, started Vitex, and AP, got pg, m/c, started Chinese herbs and AP, got pg again, m/c at just 42. Went onto Sharkeys formulas unfortunately- cycles got very mixed up, now still ttc and regulate them with AP, Chinese Herbs, and Vitex and hoping for a BFP that sticks.
I am very happy with what I have but the MMC does something to you, I feel more compelled to ttc than ever.
Good Morning Girls,
we have thought alot about adoption - however my husbands age plays a huge part - alot of countries especially Australia will not even look at you when your husband is over 45 - they say he is the main bread winner blah blah blah blah blah! Also hugely expensive - but then again if i added up how much we have spent on IVF we could possible have a couple of adopted kids by now. I too wish we had of started IVF much sooner - but life gets in the way sometimes, broken marriages in early thirties, then nursing my dad and auntie at the same time both of them had terminal lung cancer- moving states etc etc etc - also my DH at first did not want any kids, he has two by previous marriage and did not want anymore - i waited till he came around (long time) and now he is in 110% but feel sometimes its all just bad timing with our ages etc. Hey but who knows we could get lucky and whilst there is the slightest bit of hope I'm in for the long haul - and like i said before I might just get one of those donor embies - donor embies usually come from a much younger couple and its like adoption in my eyes but just one step closer. The world is full of surprises and i just know if we all try hard enough and keep at it it will all pay off ( trying to use positive thinking here) i really do beleive that if you believe it can happen it usually does - eventually. I too don't look at us as old old but you know what its like when you go the doctors and they give you all that negative talk about age blah blah blah - you know we all know what we are up against - we don't need people with negative vibes especially doctors - what we need is inspiration and strength - anyway long post i know - off to Coff Harbour to pick up IVF drugs etc and then off to the dentist EEK! Hate the dentist but must be done before IVF cycle begins next week- have a really good day girls and i will be thinking of all of you.
Quick post ladies. I'm 9DPO and have had two nights of having to get up to wee and spent half my day yesterday in the loo. I'm hoping this is a good sign, not just that I've been drinking too much water to ease my cold.
Hi Betty- hope the hospital has some answers, is AF early?
Lissie- I need to get Root Canal work done and am putting it off but really should sort it out soon
Satya- I hope the bladder sign is a BFP in the future!
I saw a Dr for AP today and he was very positive and seemed certain I'd still get pg etc.
Hi girls,
Satya - good luck - lets see a BFP.
Jo -I know you can do it - sending you some positive thoughts - now you really should see to the root canal- you don't want to be preg and going to the dentist - i know how easy it is to put off, i put off my visit for 3 or so years - got into trouble today from dentist, but teeth okay in good shape so just a clean which is bad enough - really hate people touching my mouth.
Pam - You have a great attitude and i hope you can have that little bundle soon.
Anyway have a fridge full of IVF drugs i will probably start injections around 17th June they hope to pick up eggs on last weekend in June and are going for blasties so day 5 transfer - so praying for as many eggs as possible and also praying brother inlaws sperm does its magic! Anxiety starting to set in - here we go on that rollacoaster again but its all worth it cause i know its going to work one of these times.
Jo, I only ever thought that I would have one child with MC's and relationship end so my other 2 babies are really a blessing and very lucky to be here as I have a very big prob with pregs sticking and then staying for the long haul at least the first half is touch and go. But after saying all that I really feel the need to have another baby, I'm sure it will be tough,but I'm really determined, and we certainly expect to have problems. My pet hate is people who say (at least you know you can get preg) yes we can acheive that, but we don't know if the baby will stay.We also find it very hard to get help for the same reasons.
Betty,I have an appointment with a new Doc on the 21st as well I'mhe can help started us on some sort of hormone treatment. As yet I have'nt gone back into cycle from the last MC so I am hoping that will hold off until after then. So I don't have to wait a cycle and waste another chance.
Satya, I'm not up on abbreveations, but I'm guessing that is 9 days past ovulation.Sounds like a good sign to me,that is one of the first things that I notice and dizziness. Best of luck.
Lissie, looking forward to following your next cycle, I have a good feeling. I wish I could help in some way, but I guess just chatting is a good start. If I had started younger I would have liked to donate my eggs(even if they are doodgey) I doubt anyone would want them now, just a bit too old.
Quick post before work ladies. I did a HPT this morning 10DPO CD24 (last cyle was only 24 days but usually 28 days) and it was a BFN. Still feeling hopeful though as it is early & 17 trips to the loo in 24 hours is not normal for me (and 20 the day before).... yes I am counting. My temps have been up and down since Oing as I have had a nasty cold for a week now and it still hasn't gone. Don't know what to think.
Hi Lissie,
I know the rollercoaster ride so well. I hope you get your little bundle very soon, you sound like a great mum! I'm worried about root canal as I think there's a link between digging out old fillings and m/c. So I keep putting it off
Hi Pam,
You sound like me- I was at a group last night where I saw women from my old Playgroup and one in particular was very anxious about ttc and it took her 18 months and she was heavily pg and due next month. It brought home the reality to me how I was with her ttc, pg 3 times yet now still nowhere near my goal. I'm determined too
Hi Satya- it may be too early to test, I've had a few BFN when I tested too early and then suddenly they were BFP. Good luck!
I am 43 and preg with my first. DH and I have been really ttc for 5+ years (although we have never used any form of contraception in 18 years) and my right tube is blocked. A week after we registered to start IVF I discovered that I was pregnant. It is all very new (only 7wks) and I think I am still in shock, in fact I think I am terrified if the truth be told. Had a couple of scares with some bleeding and so had US to check if all was ok and saw 8mm embie with a heart beat 109bpm. I still can't quite believe it. What's more they tell me that the egg came from my right ovary which is amazing seeing that tube is (was?) blocked! I don't have many people to talk to about this, and certainly no one even close to my age bracket so I hope you don't mind me joining in this thread.
Thanks
MrsK
Hi Mrs K-
Welcome- that's fantastic news and congratulations!
On an American forum I read about a 45 year old woman expecting a boy conceived naturally. The fact that your baby has a heartbeat already is a great sign:-)
Jo
Mrs K,
Way to go - Big CONGRATULATIONS -well done
Please do join in the more the merrier - there seems to be more and more of us which is so inspiring, it certainly does help to talk to others in our age bracket; Heres to a happy and healthy pregnancy and hopefully i will be able to join you in the next month or so.
Hi Lissie, Betty and everyone else hope everyone is well. Congrats MrsK I bet you are suprised,I'ii look forward to watching your progress. Make sure you let us know how everything is going.and heaps of good luck. Satya, I reckon it sounds positive,hope so, you may have to wait a few more days to test though. I promise myself that I'm not going to test till I'm overdue but can"t wait, usually there is a weekend in the way and I'm just to impatient. But next time I'm going to force myself.
Jo, I was out splitting wood today (therapy) I found myself thinking what if I'm preg I should'nt be doing this. I then wondered if you are afraid to exercise in the TWW and when you find out.
Austrajoey just seen you signature, now I know how many kiddies you have. Did you think you had finished after no 3 or you always knew you wanted more?
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lets see a BFP.
he can help started us on some sort of hormone treatment. As yet I have'nt gone back into cycle from the last MC so I am hoping that will hold off until after then. So I don't have to wait a cycle and waste another chance.
Pam.
and heaps of good luck.
hope so, you may have to wait a few more days to test though. I promise myself that I'm not going to test till I'm overdue but can"t wait, usually there is a weekend in the way and I'm just to impatient. But next time I'm going to force myself.
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