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    FunMumma Guest

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    well me and DP went to my obstetrician today for a check up as ive been on metformin now for my PCOS for 8 weeks. As you may well know weve been trying fo 18 months. We have a nearly 4yo but she is to my ex husband. So although she is not biologically his he does see her that way. Anyway today we get the results back for his semen analysis. Now my boobs are aching and im 98% sure im pregnant. Then he tells us "im sorry your semen shows us you have no sperm. Your shooting blanks". At this stage we have broken down. The whole time seems like a waste. The medication, the HPT an OPK. Now where. There is nohing that will ever mean my dear partner will ever biologically father a child or we will never make a baby together. Im at a loss and im trying so hard to support him but i ont know where to start. I love him immensley and it breaks my heart that he was put in this awful situation. Why us??? What is next???? Someone??? Anyone??? Please help or ofer any advice or names of people we can see, or tell me to shut up and sop being pathetic.


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    oh im so sorry to read your post/

    i couldnt even begin to understand what this means to you and how you are feeling.

    There is option for donor sperm available through fertility specialists and there is also a lot of natural ways to try and increase hubbys sperm.

    normally they should do two semen analysis to determine a true reading first.

    My hubbys first reading showed very average results and the second time is was great. So if you havent already had two tests, please push the issue until you do.

    OUr specialist told me that men have good and bad days..it depends on when they last ejaculated, stress, food. sleep. etc etc.

    there is so much support on this forum and i wish u all the best.
    good luck
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    Have you investigated the ICSI procedure of IVF?

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    hi magic no we only found out this news today and not much research has been done as we are trying to come to terms with it. Thts why any useful websites, advice, names o specialists in the sydney region, anything would be good. Its hurting so much....

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    The IVF clinic websites are excellent in providing information, try Sydney IVF, Monash and Melbourne IVF.

    So the test results were nil, absolutely nothing - is that right? Do you have the results?

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    Hunny, sending you big hugs. I can relate to what you're feeling. When I found out I had PCOS, I remember thinking 'oh well, at least we know why I haven't been able to fall pregnant'. The sperm analysis was just a formality - we knew the PCOS was the problem. You can imagine the shock when we were told DH had very low sperm count and high count of abnormal sperm.

    There's no way anybody here would tell you to shut up or tell you that you're pathetic - because you shouldn't and you're not. Please feel free to vent away, and I hope some of the girls on here can give you some useful information.

    Just moving this post to General Conception, by the way.

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    I'm so sorry to hear your news. Never in a million years would I tell you to shut up or that you are being pathetic. You are certainly not pathetic. You are a wonderful and supportive loving partner and mother.

    I wish I had something to suggest, but perhaps what Magic has suggested is worth some investigation?

    All the very best of luck to you.

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    thanks for all your wonderful thoughts. You are all such a gorgeous bunch of people. Well we have looked at some websites and we know that we wat a baby and we want to be pregnant together. Now if that means not having DP sperm than we will consider donor or whatever it takes. I ust feel so sad for DP that he was ripped off. He is such a caring guy who wants nothing more thn a big family to love and spoil. He had a brother that died of a brain heammorage and sister that died 3 years ago of CF so he wants a big family with lots of kids around.. We will go through anything. Because we are young though our ob is fairly laid back and not in a rush which is hard. But we will keep our chins up and cherish the child we have now xoxoxoxox

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    Awww sweetie, I am so sorry to hear of your news. {{hugs}} I am afraid I can't help you with any suggestions other than what Magic has suggested.

    I wish you and your DP all the best.

    Take care

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    Fun Mumma

    Im so sorry to read your post. My thoughts are with you.. Im from Sydney. My IVF Specialist is one of the highest recommended specialists in Sydney - Dr Mark Bowman at Sydney IVF Clinic in the city- can you try and get a referal to see him? I have PCOS and he recommended I take Clomid and Metformin and was to try IVF if it didnt work for us this cycle. Mark Bowman can do more tests to see why things are not working as they should be and IVF maybe your solution?

    If you want to talk about metformin or talk in general about anything Im here and happy to chat to you. Dr Mark Bowman is wonderful and he can come up with some solutions for you..I highly recommend him - also see more details on him in the OB/Specialist recommendations area.

    Hugs for you and I hope and wish you all the strength you need at this time.

    Bel
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    Hi FunMumma,

    I am so very sorry to hear your news.

    Not sure if this will help, but I have read that there are multiple possible reasons for men to have no detectable sperm at all and the problem can sometimes be fixed, with treatment depending on the source of the problem, e.g. obstruction problems in tubing might be helped surgically. I really don’t know much more than this, but maybe you could ask your doctor to refer you to someone who is well placed to distinguish between the causes?

    (Hugs) to you and your DP.

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