To buy baby things or not to buy baby things ???

[mollygirl1977]

Just thought i would check with you and get your opinions on whether you guys buy baby items or not, during cycles and the TWW. Obviuosly I don't mean the big stuff, just little good luck items and irresistable baby outfits that are just so cute you have to buy them.

On my very first IVF attempt, DH and I decided we would but something small during the TWW as a positive good luck charm. We went out and decided upon what my sister's childen call a snuggle (one of those little blankies with a teddy attached). Anyway after it was unsuccessful i vowed that i would never buy anything again until i am actually pregnant.

That was, until, this cycle when out of no where i had this overwhelming urge to go baby shopping again. Whats more, as we were having 2 transferred, i felt the need to but two of everything - one in pink and one in blue! Have i gone completely mad!!!!

Has anyone else done anything like this??

[Pink+blue]

Maybe buy something like little socks thats what i did lol

[Aramis7]

Hi. Uhmmm.....that's kind of a personal choice. Our choice has been NOT to buy anything baby-related at all until we're successful with IVF.

Dunno...if cycles fail (and they do) you'll have stuff around the house reminding you that you have no purpose for those items yet?.

As I said, its all very personal. Sorry if I sound negative. That's just our view.

best of luck to you

cheers

[farmgirl77]

I struggled with this question - for me buying something was just asking to get my hopes up and leading to disapointment while not buying something was admitting that IVF was never going to work....in the end I did not buy anything until we got our BFP, and even then I waited till after 12 weeks.

I think it comes down to personal choice and doing what ever helps you to get through.

Good luck with your cycle - wishing you a BFP!
FG

[Baby Dreamtime]

Hi Mollygirl,
You know me, I buy something almost every time. I have a nice little stash going. My beliefs that, one day, some day, it will happen, so I am not wasting my time or money. Lots of positive thinking books I have read say that 'what you believe, you concieve' and that you should act as though you already have what you wish for.

So I say, buy away. I don't think it is jinxing, the cycle will either work or not. But for you I pray that this is the one, and that it will be both pink and blue, and we can be belly buddies together and laugh about how much fun it is coping with twins.

Sending you all the sticky vibes in the world. xx

[Possums]

Yeh I buy little things too...have quite a stash now! If it makes you feel good, and it's something small, then I figure why not...we WILL get to use these things one day, even if not from that cycle (or even that pregnancy)

[helle]

yep, when I was preg with Jayvan I did the whole "buy nothing til past 12 weeks" thing, and lost him at almost 18 weeks. So, now I've been buying little bits and peices that DF and I like to coo over. If anything it's a testimate to ourselves that our next bub is homing home!

[kittycat27]

hi mollygirl,

it is one of those things, you either do or you don't i suppose.
i have a 4yr daughter and have kept a lot of her things.
but i still do buy the odd cute thing, boy or girl as well.

but i decided after my last failed cycle that i was going to start a baby journal.
i have bought a blank spiral book and i am going to start and by mothers magazines.
i am going to cut out all the things i dream of having with my next baby.

there are so many things i never did with my daughter that i regret, and this time i don't want any regrets. i think i took it all for granted and my pregnancy went so fast.

i especially regret not taking more photos of my pregnancy. so i am out to look for lots of nideas on how to do things differently this time , and i want to be ready when it happens!!! soon....
the books also have a lot of informaition on concieving that is helpful too.
hope this helps. but it is a very personal. do what you think fells right.
bye
michelle

[grub17]

hi girls,

we've got some stuff. some has been given to us by "kindly'' neighbours.

but we have a cot and a nice running pram packed away. we didn't go out shopping or anything, but these items came up second hand for a good price so we just thought "what the hell''.

but i don't go ''baby shopping'' as such. i just feel, for me, it would be too difficult when/if it doesn't work.
hope that helps.

oxox

[satya]

In the early days bought stuff but stopped doing it after a few years and eventually got rid of it as it felt like a bad luck charm or something (if such a thing exists). I just used to hate coming across little things that I'd stashed at the back of cupboards long before. When I eventually got to see a heartbeat I bought one outfit & nothing else until 12 weeks.

[Bengal]

I bought a wardrobe full of clothes, and larger baby items, in my previous pregnancies. That I now have packed away in tissue paper, and carefully wrapped to keep them. I don't think I will buy any more until I feel it is right for me. My DH wants me to give away the bassinette I bought for our first pregnancy, as he thinks, that was our angel baby's bassinette, I understand how he feels, it's like, thats the bassinette for the bubba we lost, it could also be the bassinette that watches over our forever baby