oh absolutely...hindsight...I have been guilty before my losses of saying the dreadful comment "it obviously wasn't meant to be..blah blah"...noone ever wants to hear that. All people want is understanding that its awful and a hug.
i have also been guilty of saying nothing when i didnt know what to say. another bad move. say something that shows you care. when my friends say nothing i feel hurt.
anyway, I guess we are more sensitive understanding people now!