thread: DH has had enough! Anyone else???

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  1. #1

    Oct 2008
    2,880

    I just wanted to say that I am sorry you are going through this. The journey is hard enough without having these sort of other things going on.

    Huge hugs
    Sue xxx

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Apr 2009
    Sydney
    53

    Thanks ladies, i am still not speaking to him as it just hurts so much right now,i cant even look at him at the moment.

    I think i will take some of your advice though and talk with him when i calm down and try to understand where this has come from!!!!!

    I know it can be hard on couples going through LTTC but i see so many other DHs support their partners,why cant mine????

    Thanks again

  3. #3
    BellyBelly Member

    Mar 2005
    Limestone Coast, SA
    2,671

    I am sorry this is happening to you, sometimes men can be very immature and selfish, they dont realise that the end result is so worth it. My psych said that an attitude such as your DH's just shows that he is immature in his thinking and selfish.

    I have left my DH because of similar reasons, he refuses to ever have another baby, mainly cause TTC is too stressful.

    I hope you can sort things through with DH and convince him TTC is worth pursueing x

  4. #4
    Registered User

    Apr 2009
    Sydney
    53

    and the saga continues......

    Thanks again all, it s now 6 days since our fight and nothing has changed. Im about to OV any day soon AND im on Clomid,how crap is that,i put myself thru all the hard stuff and he now decides NO MORE!

    I really hate him right now......

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Dec 2007
    349

    Oh beckie

    As if we don't go through enough

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Sep 2008
    Up the Duff
    376

    beckie- I'm so sorry this is happening to you, it must be so hard atm.
    Maybe this is just his way of coping with this atm and perhaps, given a little more time, he might come round.
    I really hope you are able to work things out together

  7. #7
    BellyBelly Member

    May 2007
    ACT
    523

    My DH was at the stage of saying no more last Nov/December. I truly believe that I went through a mourning period as I wasn't ready to give up. He's come around again. His objections were my obsession, the fact we kept getting BFNs and the FS wasn't interested in trying different things and the emotional pain I went through with each BFNs.

    I think we've found a better balance and have started living life again and enjoying each other, we've opened communication and we've changed FS who is really great and we'll be trying a new type of cycle soon.

    I understand your resentment to your DH. I felt that last year and I was angry at him for making things harder than what I thought they needed to be. Now I'm glad he stood his ground as things feel so much more positive in our lives and with our TTC.

    to you. I hope given a litle time he explains his stance and it's one you can both move forward from.