Kiya, the couple that sued their doctor never said one child would go public, one private. they sued for the cost of sending the additional child to a private school as they needed to put a number on their financial expectations. they've not said their children would be treated different to each other, they've simply said that the lifestyle they wish to give those children will be more expensive having two children. that situation, however, is not relevant to this discussion. they didn't have IVF just to have twins. they had fertility treatment because they couldn't conceive naturally.

i do believe we have a right to have an opinion on whether or not otherwise fertile people, able to conceive naturally, are able to access medical technology that has been developed for the purpose of helping infertile individuals to conceive. why shouldn't we have a healthy debate about it. the point of the thread was to ask if individuals are offended or insulted by the notion of people using ivf solely to give birth to twins - it has evolved into a discussion about WHAT IVF entails, why we don't think it's right, why we, as indivduals, are offended. the poll shows that over 60% of the respondants, and by no means all IVF/AC individuals, find the thought insulting/offensive.

you've said

I thought we were meant to be thankful for what we have been given
and yet in the same breath, you've said it's up to the individual. I AM thankful for the opportunityto access reproductive technology because for me, it IS a need. i would be ecstatic to not need to access it ever. i AM thankful for the sake of my friends that they've not had to go through this. i just want other people to be equally thankful for the blessing they have in being able to conceive naturally, and not to take away from those in genuine NEED for a WANT that is highly unlikely to be fulfilled via IVF.

in Australia, this is entirely hypothetical - we have a medical system with ethics committees that are smart enough to stop this sort of practice taking place. but overseas, this isn't necessarily the case, and it scares me to think where it will lead...


Kelly, i know this topic has gone off point from what you started it out as, and i'm sorry if i have contributed to that in any way. i am just passionate about making sure people understand this from the POV of a long termer...