Dusty, congratulations on the birth of your daughter, that is so inspiring and exciting. Thanks for your reply too...I feel a bit lost at the moment, don't know where to post, just floating and sad. Wow, 9 cycles. We are similar in age too. That gives me so much hope. I wish I could stop hoping and longing, but I can't. I think what you said is so right - most people just don't like talking about sad things especially sad things they have no control over. My brother just thinks I should tough it out and be positive. It's not what you want to hear when you are grieving. What he doesn't realise is that we do tough it out - over and over again - and we do stay positive - our relationships with our nieces and nephews and the children of our close friends is testament to that. But some days we falter and we hurt and that's when rather than trying to find something to say or do to fix things we just want the people close to us to hold us and comfort us and tell us that we'll be OK, that we'll get through it. Congratulations once again on your little miracle and for sharing your thoughts here xx