Feeling left behind in the TTC 'race'

[Lily Dust]

Deep down hun, you are happy for her but that doesnt mean that your heart is breaking for the baby that you want. Its hard when others seem to get what they want so easily when you have to fight tooth and nail to get there You aren't a fraud, you're just a normal person struggling with the awful TTC and IVF rollercoaster. Dont beat yourself up

[onthefly]

sucks to feel tht way, doesn't it?

[MummyNaomi]

sucks to feel tht way, doesn't it?

Yep!! But no matter how I try to rationalise it (with myself ) I just cant change the way I feel

DOH

[Santosha]

You're allowed Hun. Give yourself room to feel whatever you need to. I'll be over here doing the crazy-baby-dust dance for you if you need me, K?! Sending you every vibe, prayer and wish that this TTC journey is a short one for you. Huuuuge hugs.

[Miss.B]

Oh hunni, big big hugs for you lovely . I feel exactly the same. We had to go down the IVF path too, and although it has given me the most amazing gift, twice, I am very sad some days that I couldn't conceive my babies naturally. Every time I hear that a friend is TTC, I always feel that they will announce they are pg, like yesterday!! lol, while I have to wait till I can do another round. What do you do???? I just have to remind myself time and time again that I am sooooooooo lucky to have gotten pg both times I have attempted IVF, whereas some women try for years and nothing. I truly feel for them and wish they could at least get pg with IVF than not get pg at all.

GL hunni, I hope it happens for you quickly (and naturally!)

[onthefly]

It's not rational, that's why!
I wish it would go away too. I have two babies for goodness sake! Must start appreciatingwonderfulthingsinmylife and stop thinkignaboutwhatIcan'thave

[RhiChiChi]

Oh I hear ya! I am truly happy when family & friends annouce their pg, particularly ones I know whom have struggled but that doesn't mean I can't feel sad, angry or whatever.

You aren't a fraud and you shouldn't stop feeling how you do - I think it is healthy to vent & you can't feel upbeat all the time. It reminds me of a Seinfeld episode where this guy was upbeat all the time & his motto was 'serenity now' - he was actually mad (crazy) and other people that used that saying went crazy too!

I think if we were always upbeat we would be doing the wrong thing by our emotional well being. For me, I feel, vent, acknowledge those feelings etc... then I tell myself I can't change things that happened in the past. I tend to feel better & my anxiety levels have come down. It might be worth trying to find after your vent or have a low moment, what you can do to then feel better - for me it's yoga & breathing. I hope this makes sense.

[Lily Dust]

Must start appreciatingwonderfulthingsinmylife and stop thinkignaboutwhatIcan'thave

OMG MadB so Im not the only one who feels that way?!?!

I think alot of emotional scarring is left for along time, maybe even forever after LTTTC . Somedays you can be totally at peace with it all but then another pregnancy announcement and it brings back all those feelings.