Sushee,

Well said - i was only thinking that myself. It does not matter how one gets to IVF or not - everyone has there own personal story. I thought about writing in but i too thought i am not going to waste my energy on it, the author or the magazine. I am comfortable with who i am and what i am doing and basically i don't give two hoots what anyone else thinks anymore. I was only watching the last episode of Future FAmilies last night - it was about two men having babies, i have no judgements on this, i think anyone that truly goes to these lengths to be a parent deserves it , and one of the men said something that struck a cord with me, he said that he was disappointed in some of the reactions his family and friends took but he was not going to let that stop him having a family, cause even though they may have their opinions they will go on with their own lives so why shouldn't he. Unfortunately there are people out there that will always say and think things without being put in our shoes for a day, one thing i know for sure is IVF has made me a very UNjudgemental person now - it has taught me patience, and strength i did not know i had. It has taught me to be a fighter in the midst of dispear but mostly it has taught me not to judge others, alot of people have judged me thru this journey and alot of people say things that hurt - and thats okay - its a free world - but i know in my heart this is the right journey for me.