DH and I have been ttc for 17 months. We started first IUI in December last year and we are in the 2ww on our 2nd cycle. We have been having some stress in our relationship which I am putting down to the long term TTC and also the drugs! I'm like a bull to a red rag!! I know it's wrong but I just can't help it (at least I AM aware of it!). Are there any articles online that can explain to DH what I am going through.....he's a little naive when it comes to women's emotions at the best of times. I am aware he is also under some stress however i really need his support!
I can sympathise as probably so many others can. We have had x4 failed clomid cycles, x2 failed IUI and we are about to move onto IVF. We have had the crying screaming matches and the stress was definately beginging to show we then sat down and talked really openly - without the telly on, with no mobile phone distraction we just agreed to set aside a night to really talk. During that night i showed him the thread "empty arms, broken hearts" (in LTTTC) and i had bought a book "getting pregnant by prof. robert jansen" and i had marked the chapter "releif from suffering" which talks about all the emotional side of things. He then also read other chapters and i think now understands the whole process so much better it gives him confidence and understanding.
We had to go for our first counselling session to be able to start IVF and in that they talked about how women want to talk about how they are feeling and just because he may "seem disinterested or unsupportive" it may just be his way of dealing with the stress also - WE SOUNDED COMPLETLY NORMAL.
I would also contemplate a counselling session - does your FS clinic offer a service?
Hang in their hun - it's a very difficult road Look after each other and take time off if you need to - we have!
Thank you soooo much bella! It's nice to know that I'm not the only irrational female around!! Our clinic does offer counselling. I have been once, on my own of course, and was in tears during most of it! I'm at hollywood fertility (in perth) and it's one thing I haven't really enjoyed about the experience....I didn't like the counsellor - she spent most of the time telling me about the the stats and how IVF is better than IUI!!! Something i didn't really need to hear especially when it's your OB's decision to put us on IUI.........not mine!
hi Baby2Bee
I spent 3 months on the synarel spray before we started IVF. I was so horribly moody and emotional and it was extremely hard for me to get DH to understand how I felt. Even when I told him that i was aware that I was getting angry with him and DD and yelling at them, I just could not control it...It took a friend of ours telling him about medication that she takes and how it would affect her the same way, for him to understand how I was feeling and what I was going through. I think he needed to hear it from someone else that i wasn't deliberatly being a monster!
Talking,talking,talking...you can never do too much of it when you are going through long term TTC and AC...
Your clinic counsellor sounds like a nutter too! Is she the only one available?
Lotsa hugs...
How can I explain it to my husband!
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