I was not in a position of TTC... so I'm sure those sort of comments must cut a lot harder.

But for me, I had been married a few years - and I'm "older" - and he's Jewish. So everyone was assuming we should be TTC. My DH's best friend was pregnant... and every time his mum saw me she would say "ooohhh... you're pregnant". To which I would always reply "no, I'm just fat!". It shut her up after a while.

Eventually I did get pregnant... and I deliberately didn't tell her.

I think it's just 'human nature' that people make those sort of comments. They just don't think.

And when you are pregnant everyone asks: "do you know what sex you're having?" and "have you picked out names?" The first time I just let everyone know because I didn't like to lie. This time, I don't know so I can honestly tell them... "I don't know". But many women must know - but not want to tell everyone. Since being pregnant... I've made a conscious decision never to ask a pregnant woman about the sex/names. But prior to that... I never really thought about it.



Good luck TTC. If the family/friends comments really get to you - think of a comeback line like "can't stand kids = have no intention of having them".... then they stop asking! In the meantime.... vent away on BB~!