Long Term TTC & Assisted Conception April/May 2014

[PlanetSasha]

Miss B - I tried to PM you but your inbox is full.

[Sarah4kurt13]

Hey girls ,
Miss b go for the radical one is what I'd do!

I'm thinking of changing too.

My bt confirmed chemical preg :-(
Does it ever ever end?!
Now I'm up to 8!!!
I feel so defeated today!

[Miss.B]

Juniper, thanks lovely

Sarah, I'm so sorry sweetie, you don't deserve this! I'm so peeved off for you hun, I really hope that you'll soon have a sticky one .

PlanetSasha, I've cleared my inbox. Thanks for replying hun!

[juniper76]

Sarah, I'm sorry to hear the b/t confirmed your suspicions. Even going through this before, it doesn't stop us hoping for a miracle or praying that we're wrong. Be kind to yourself as you grieve your loss. xx

[Sarah4kurt13]

I will xo
Warning down post ahead...
I'm thinking of the scarey thing we all dread to think it's never going to happen , I hate the no guarantee thing!
You work hard at something long enough it will pay off we are taught, but not this and it blooming is not right.
A baby comes so easy to many I feel like a broken freak. Everyone around me has no probs or if they did easy fixed.
Every time I say I'm preg now I just wait to loose it, be optimistic they say! Yeah I tried that, tried praying my heart out , crying, begging, ignoring. Getting on with life.
Visualization blah blah
Same out come.
It annoys me that it can be only three things, uterus, sperm or eggs. 3!! Should be able to find out.
Not knowing why is hard.
I want answers like we all do.
My heart goes out to all of you xxx

[juniper76]

It annoys me that it can be only three things, uterus, sperm or eggs. 3!! Should be able to find out.
Not knowing why is hard.

For us, we know the sperm and eggs are a problem and all our m/c are probably due to chromosomal issues. So far, we've had no indication that there's a problem with the uterus, but it does scare me that we might find a problem there too if we eliminate the egg and sperm problems (with donor embryos)... At this point it's hard to not expect that extra disappointment...

All you can do is ask your FS what other testing you can do to try to find the problem or try a new FS in hopes that a fresh set of eyes will see what your current FS has missed (if anything has been missed).

I agree that having those answers makes a big difference. Even though our answers pointed to untreatable problems, at least we know there's nothing more we can do and it's down to luck. When you don't know what the problem is, you end up torturing yourself wondering if you could be preventing it, if only you knew what needed to be done... So let me tell you one important thing: It is not your fault.