Megan and Jane - i wish i had your attudes with my first cycle - I was sure it was going to work, I was young, healthy (i thought), and i had been pg naturally before (ectopic) but no and i was so so disapointed as the meds gave me all the signs.
Im hoping for you both and i understand where your coming from. It may sound silly to say but as time has gone on and ive done more cycles DH thinks im getting better at it.lol but i know what he meand - im less stressed!
Im so hoping we get some graduates from here soon. I am keeping all crossed for you ladies. Chances for us have diminished yet again - hard to believe they can get less than 1%! Looking at possibility of an underlying cause that has not previously been examined - but unfortunately if that is the cause we are facing the guillotine for fertility. But we will hold out hope whilever there is some - although must admit is getting more and more difficult...
Jane, Megan - hang in there guys. Totally understand the 'preparation phase' - some of us just find it easier preparing for the worst rather than building up hope only to have it ripped out from under us, so yes, I agree with your approach. But each to their own. Plus I have found that different IVF cycles I have approached differently - although I do think it is not so much of a conscious decision - more just depending on where you are at the time, mentally I mean.
Thanks Keen - preparation phase is a good way of putting it. I agree each to their own, we all have different lives, experiences and reasons for being on IVF so we are all bound to cope differently, and I imagine each cycle will also be different. I am so sorry to hear you have had more bad news, I hope you can get some positive news soon and someone can help. I hope you are coping OK.
thanks Jane. Unfortunately not really coping at all. And doesnt help when my close friend is giving me crap about not seeing me very much lately - this is one who has a 10 month old. I just wish didnt have to always explain our actions to others who dont understand. It sometimes really seems they dont care and just want us to "get over it"... yep, like its that easy...
yeah, so as you can see not my usual cheery hopeful self lately but trying.
Would be good if we could get some of you ladies graduated. That always lifts my spirits...
Just wanted to say I'm so sorry to hear your news.
I know what you mean about friends too...all of my friends now have babies...and it takes so much emotional energy to just psych myself up to see them, that it just doesn't feel worth it much more...
Anyway just wanted to say that I really hope that you have some great news soon...and I'm thinking of you.
Keen - don't worry, you don't have to act any other way than how you feel in here, and I think giving your friend a bit of distance at the moment is very sensible. We have friends over last night for dinner with their 2 bubs and I said to DH when they left, don't you feel like we are getting left behind, it's like everyone is a member of this exclusive club and we're not. We are still getting those, "you'll understand when you have children" comments, which drive me insane.
Trying to "get over it" is useless to, you deal with it how you want/can and tell them to bugger off. I really hope things fix for you soon.
Oh Keen.... I'm sending you truckloads of There has to be some fantastic news coming your way soon..... *slaps* to your friend for giving you grief. Thinking of you.
Hey Megan - Things are good here... I think? Seriously though, DH and I had another chat today and he assures me he is ready to get another referral to the FS and that he is doing it because he wants too and not just to make me happy. Not sure if we will do something before or after xmas?
Not even sure if there is a Dr in town at the moment, so that's our first hurdle. Thanks for asking How's your DH?
ooohh keen hun, i am sending one huge hug your way sweetie.. and a big to your friend...
I am so sorry that things are going quiet your way at the moment, i really hope soon, that life makes a turn for the better for you and DH.. thinking of you...
Hi everyone, i am new to this site, my details on TTC should be added to your list shortly. I am currently on my 3rd ICSI cycle, 1st one cancelled due to poor response with puregon, 2nd no eggs fertilised, 3rd ICSI fingers crossed it works. I had my transfer done October 28th and have my BT 15th November. This 2ww is killing me. I have had 3 shots of Pregnyl over the week, 3 days apart, last shot was friday, so i think i might do a HPT this friday...Goodluck to everyone on the 2ww.
I joined during the TWW on my 2nd IVF cycke in 2004. 8 cycles and an IVF baby later, I'm now part of the furniture! Hopefully your stay (and everyone else's in here) is short.
Honestly? I had every symptom under the sun for each of my first 7 cycles, but I wasn't pg for any of them. It was the cycle where I had no symptoms bar a bloated tummy (which I thought was a reaction to the medication) that I was pg. I had no other symptoms, not even sore bbs, which is a definite on progesterone!
Then there are other women who get cramping who go on to get +ves, or sore bbs, or nausea. There is no fixed signal I'm afraid!
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There has to be some fantastic news coming your way soon..... *slaps* to your friend for giving you grief. Thinking of you.
How's your DH?
to your friend...
everyone else, and Jano, when is your BT? leis xx
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