Long Term TTC & Assisted Conception - November 2008

[Me+him+bub]

Hi everyone ive been out of action for a while, im so busy! still not pregnant and still have had no progress or success with getting into an ivf clinic my GP who has ALL the history is on leave until january! and every other doc at the clinic is shall I say kinda rude and non english speaking, so id rather wait. I rang to make an appointment with urologist and was put on hold for about 15 mins and no one answered so I will try again today. I have my DP on menevit and I have started B6 this cycle, im now on CD16 and have been peeing on OPKS twice a day since CD1 and ive never gotten a positive allthough I have my usual ovulation cramps and stringy CM for the past 3 days and swear I have ovulated, 2 opk's got very dark but still a little lighter than the control line, has anyone else experienced this? also im using fertility monitor for the first time and I never got a peak but apparently you dont on the first cycle, so i will see next month! and to make things worse my best friend who is on the pill and only has "casual" partners is pregnant!!! AND she probably wont keep it and she is 8 weeks and said to me ' i have plenty of time to decide what I wanna do" i almost punched her out!!! I'm so crushed and im also doing my Registered Nurse 2 weeks training at the moment and guess what....My buddy nurse is 20 weeks pregnant, im a real mess today, my DP is depressed im depressed we are just struggling so much our bub was supposed to be due last week I think I have almost given up as every attempt I make at anything I hit a wall, I dont know how you all do it! ive even lost 14 kilos in 4 months and that has done nothing aswell. My mother got pregnant 1st time with me and my sister and she doesnt have a clue about all this and no one in my life has gone through this only my wonderful online friends. Any advice would be great, I just dont know what else to do I havent touched a drop of alcohol or coffee in 2 years or never even ever tried a cigarette in my life! that goes for my partner aswell! I pray ALL the time and I still get kicked down every month. I havent felt like Ive had a normal life for the past 2 years I feel like nothing is fun anymore I almost wish I was one of those women who doesnt want children! sorry for the rant but im just really fed up at the moment I even said to DP maybe we should use a condom and hope it breaks as ppl on birth control seem to have more success!

ME 21
DP 21-89% abnormal sperm
TTC#1 for 2 years
1 blighted ovum

[Me+him+bub]

just rang uorologist and cant get in til FEB 19th! im so devastated! I asked is it better to go straight to see a fertility specialist and she said no you have to come to the urologist as the fertility clinics are only for girl problems!!! Am I stupid or something! has this happened to anyone else, everyone is so reluctant to help us coz we are considered "young" age doesnt make medical conditions less serious i just dont get it.

[Possums]

21andTTC#1-- sending you a big HUG...so sorry for all the stress you are dealing with...
plus having your friend be pregnant and be so casual about it must be very very hard to handle...I can imagine I would feel the same way you do...plus your buddy nurse as well!

all your frustration and anger is very understandable, and so many of us have felt the same emotions...it can be hard to find people who do understand, but at least here, you will find support. Try and find ways to relax through acupuncture etc- it can help calm your mind and body if nothing else. And remember, you arent doing things wrong...sometimes some people just take a long time to have a baby.

[Mels77]

21 - i'm so sorry for you. you have every right to be angry and upset. hang in there... not sure if this helps, but i think you are in Qld? have you tried city fertility (they are in brisbane and gold coast)? i go to CF in melbourne and i thought they guaranteed the first appointment within 2 weeks? My DH didn't have to go to a urologist... (but we don't have a male factor, so perhaps that's the difference?). Anyway, could you just go to any old clinic and get a referral to CF to get the ball rolling? I've found that a lot of those bulk billing places are happy to give referrals without much history... hope that helps.
mels x

[Bengal]

21 - i'm so sorry for you. you have every right to be angry and upset. hang in there... not sure if this helps, but i think you are in Qld? have you tried city fertility (they are in brisbane and gold coast)? i go to CF in melbourne and i thought they guaranteed the first appointment within 2 weeks? My DH didn't have to go to a urologist... (but we don't have a male factor, so perhaps that's the difference?). Anyway, could you just go to any old clinic and get a referral to CF to get the ball rolling? I've found that a lot of those bulk billing places are happy to give referrals without much history... hope that helps.
mels x

[Bengal]

21 - sending you a hug as well ... However, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you may have to take a deep breath and hold off till Jan/Feb as most of the specialists go on leave, I know how much that will drive you nuts, but what can we do - you are not alone waiting till after christmas, and we can all drive each other nuts with waiting waiting waiting stories ...

Have you tried calling a few Uroligist's ? And ask to be put on a cancellation list, another thing you can do is ask the GP to mark the referal as URGENT - if you get a good GP they will do that for you, I have been a med receptionist in the past and we always had to get urgent patients in pretty much immediatly - I wouldnt care if the GP cant speak english - you will only see them for ten mins, and get them to write urgent - urgent urgent

[MissMagpie]

HI girls,

It has gotten busy in here. Im losing track of everyone!

Smithy - sorry to hear your news. Look after yourself and hope your feeling better soon.

Good luck to all who are trying again before Christmas. Hope we can get some more BFP.

AFM, have decided to just wait for my BT next Tuesday and start my next cycle when I next get AF which should be around 19 December. Even if I had of started my cycle yesterday, I couldnt have had an EPU until after 19 January because of closures so this next cycle wont be much longer after that anyway.

Like Possums, we are going to try naturally this month too. Why not I say. Miracles do happen!!!

Take care all.

Tania