21 - i'm so sorry for you. you have every right to be angry and upset. hang in there... not sure if this helps, but i think you are in Qld? have you tried city fertility (they are in brisbane and gold coast)? i go to CF in melbourne and i thought they guaranteed the first appointment within 2 weeks? My DH didn't have to go to a urologist... (but we don't have a male factor, so perhaps that's the difference?). Anyway, could you just go to any old clinic and get a referral to CF to get the ball rolling? I've found that a lot of those bulk billing places are happy to give referrals without much history... hope that helps.
mels x