Rols - DH only works "away" when it's convenient for us - the main guy he does long distance trips for has a friend who has gone through IVF, so when we mentioned that there would be times that DH just couldn't be away "just in case" he has been fabulous - he mostly rings, gets me on the phone and asks whether certain days will be ok time wise, and then talks to DH about whether he wants to go away at that time. He has a local job driving a tipper, but because he is casual he isn't always working full time hours, so the occassional trip away works out well for us financially. he has been talking about working 2 weeks on 2 weeks off with the "away" job, and having the 2 weeks he's home working for the local guy, but it's all a bit up in the air at the moment - he's extremely supportive through all of this (very much like you are for your DW - just computer illiterate so can't post in here!) and has told me that he doesn't think it would be emotionally health for either of us to be apart for long stretches regularly while still going through treatment.

having said all that - we have made a deal that we'll only commit to AC til mid year next year (at the latest) then take a six month "working holiday" and go away together roughing it in the truck for the whole time and seeing all the places he keeps telling me about that the average person wouldn't see (and where you wouldnt go as a tourist!) - it will give us a break from the stresses of AC, and get us financially in a much better place (his monthly away wage is about double what both of us can earn locally)

hmmmm - that was a little bit of waffle - sorry about that!