Thanks Rols. I did fall into another old habit of beating up on myself for slipping up... but then I managed to stop that as well with a simple reminder that the important thing is that I'm recognising the triggers and the behaviours and managing to catch them before they turn me into a quivering wreck. I suspect that's something I'm going to be doing for a very, very long time! a habit of 15-20 years duration is not going to be broken over night.
I realise this is entirely unnecessary, but I do want to voice publicly my support for having Rols here. I think it is important to know the male perspective on assisted conception and the effects it has on them as well as us. There's been many times where Rols' explanation of how the male brain thinks has saved DH and myself from an argument or misunderstanding. It's all too easy to lose sight of the fact that even though our partners aren't the ones enduring the injections, nasal sprays, pessaries, scans, anaesthetics, blood tests, early morning starts and all the other joys this journey brings (although my DH did end up with a scan of his own and an anaesthetic of his own and more varieties of semen analysis than I thought possible!) that this has a significant impact on them as well. Rols is our reminder to remember our partners and that this impacts on their lives as well... and even though we may be the ones sitting on the computer and doing the research, it's important to make sure you pass that knowledge on to them as well. It's a joint thing, not something we do in isolation.
Carla, I don't think Rols was being rude at all. I can see why he may have misunderstood the thoughts behind your comment. Everyone is welcome here, nobody needs to justify why they are in this thread and why they need this support. Yes, it is unusual to have a male in this area, but I strongly believe he is a valuable asset to this thread, as I outlined earlier.
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