Long Term TTC & Assisted Conception October 2012

[juniper76]

Jo, hi and welcome! If/when you want to be added to The List, just let me know where you are in your cycle. GL with the puregon!!

faye, my advice is to break the cycle down into steps and just take it on one step at a time. Don't start your synarel worrying about the beta, just worry about taking your meds on time. Don't worry about how many embryos you'll get while you're doing your stims - just worry about taking your meds on time. Don't worry about EPU - honestly, that scared me the most for our first cycle, but it is actually the easiest part! Just take on each stage as it happens rather than worrying about the one you're on and the next 3... And ask us as many questions as you like.

MC, FX you are surprised by your FET outcomes. My FS says you have a good chance with FETs if the embies come from a pregnancy IVF. Lol, then I had to point out ours came from a BFN IVF... Oh well...

myturn, yay for an earlier appt! I keep having those "we should a newborn" thoughts (especially since DD started saying "baby" this week, out of the blue - breaks my heart every time , but I have to remind myself that "should" is the wrong word. She was never meant to come home with us. I have to make sure I change it to "would have if things had been different" and then remind myself that they weren't different. I do find I think those "should" thoughts less often now that the due date has passed, but I still think them...

Afm, pretty sure I'll be back here in the next few days... Someone else will have to get our first BFP for the month!

[jo_white83]

Hi Juniper!
I would love to be on the list! Currently i'm mid cycle but due to my irregular cycles and the results of today's internal u/s, my FS has me starting a course of provera tomorrow (after taking a preggo test I know will be negative, it always is) to induce a 'fake period'... I will let you know when my new day 1 is!
Thank you to you all for making me feel so welcome!!! I am so glad I 'stumbled' across this site while I was researching Puregon!!! I can already tell this forum is going to be the thing that keeps me sane through out this process!!!

xx

[myturn]

I keep having those "we should a newborn" thoughts (especially since DD started saying "baby" this week, out of the blue - breaks my heart every time , but I have to remind myself that "should" is the wrong word. She was never meant to come home with us. I have to make sure I change it to "would have if things had been different" and then remind myself that they weren't different. I do find I think those "should" thoughts less often now that the due date has passed, but I still think them...

hmmmm... exactly what I say to my clients.... I should seriously practice what I preach... but it's hard sometimes....

and one of these for you

[juniper76]

Of course it's hard. I'm guessing you maintain a certain detachment and objectivity with your clients to be able to offer them that advice? It's a lot harder to see clearly when you are in the thick of it all...

Right back at you:

[faye*]

Thank you all for making me feel welcome and for all your advice.... It's very much appreciated

[vic261]

Welcome to all the new girls in here. Its a great place to be and plenty of girls to obsess with. The DH's get a bit over it, but the girls on here dont

myturn - good to see you back. I know you have been stalking I am happy that your FS appointment is next week. My AF came 5 weeks 3 days after my D&C.

Juniper - Sorry to hear that you think you may be back in here

Miloro - Great news on two snow bubs. I too had a big haul. 17 eggs. 9 fertilised and we got one transferred at day 5 and one frostie. The one they transferred was a BFP. I think too many eggs is not great, its better to have less but better quality. I had one EPU of 8 eggs, 7 fertilised, 2 were transferred at day 2 and 5 made it to blast.

Murrycod - FX for you xxx

AFM - I too have a case of the should haves. I should be 22 weeks tomorrow and know the sex of our baby and going to Adelaide next week for a shopping trip for baby stuff Instead I am going to Adelaide for yet another EPU *sigh*

I had yet another pipelle biopsy yesterday. Took my dr 3 attempts. Freaking hurt!!! I think its still worth it though. I told her about our 8 cell embryo and she said so you conceived naturally while you were not trying. Stop trying so hard lol. I said to her maybe we can always conceive its just the emby never grows. She said all we need is one and its like the lottery. Thats what my DH says.

She also said looking at the biopsy that she didn't think I was as far along in my cycle as I said I was. Either that or the lining is not thickening up I could tell looking at it too that it didnt' look like a little worm. Up until yesterday I was spot bleeding. Once a day when I wiped. Nothing much to it, but she said she could see a bit of old blood too. So who knows. The scan tomorrow will tell us more. I will be so annoyed if EPU is not Monday. Its the start of my holidays and I have semi booked stuff. Hopefully my lining gets its butt into gear by tomorrows scan.

[Beau30]

Hi everyone.

Does it get easier emotionally after the 1st failed cycle? Have any of you done things differently the 2nd time? Also for those of you who have done FET? Do most frozen embryos surive thawing? I have 7 frozen from my 1st cycle?

Vic 261 - Is you FS giving you anything to thicken up your lining? Apparently mine was slightly thin on my normal cycle tracking ages ago.

I am so glad that I found this site - it has definatley mademe feel alot better to be able to speak to others going through the same thing. Its hard when all my friends have hadno troubleatall -so they dont know what to say.


Thanks guys
xx

[nothing2lose]

hi Beau,

To answer your second question, I have done three FETs and all my embryos (four in all) have thawed and were transferred.

In answer to your first - does it get easier emotionally? - yes and no. I think the first few failures are very hard. I cried and cried. But then I think self protection kicks in and you don't get your hopes up so that by your 7th, 8th, 9th failed attempt you are kind of resigned to it. It's still upsetting of course but you don't have the same level of optimism as when you started. Usually you have already started planning your next cycle before you even get your official bfn.