I keep having those "we should a newborn" thoughts (especially since DD started saying "baby" this week, out of the blue - breaks my heart every time , but I have to remind myself that "should" is the wrong word. She was never meant to come home with us. I have to make sure I change it to "would have if things had been different" and then remind myself that they weren't different. I do find I think those "should" thoughts less often now that the due date has passed, but I still think them...
hmmmm... exactly what I say to my clients.... I should seriously practice what I preach... but it's hard sometimes....

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